I don't know if it was something that was set up in blogger, my computer, yahoo, or what, but I used to get a pop up box in the lower right hand corner of my screen telling me if I had a message or comment that had come in. I could be browsing websites or looking at blogs and all of a sudden, a horizontal box would pop up if someone had just left me a message, then the box would disappear and I could then go to my inbox to read the comment.
Does any of this sound familiar? Do you get these pop up messages? It hasn't happened since I got my new computer so I'm thinking I must have had something set somewhere. Who knows, it's all a mystery to me now!
Anyways, it's a pretty blah day here today, weather included. My husband had to go out of town for a few days so I don't even have the TV on. I'm thinking about turning on the game and doing some ironing while I'm at it. I know I know, I live an exciting life don't I!?!
To tell you the truth, I'm feeling kinda bummed. My sister who lives near me is having a Super Bowl party today with lots of friends and food but hubby and I never seem to be invited to their gatherings. Granted, they are "party people" and we don't drink, and we're really not into football like they are, but still. I probably wouldn't even have gone over but the offer to join in would have been nice. I called yesterday to see if I could stop by to drop off a special gift I had made for her but she was on her way to Smart and Final, stocking up for today I'm sure. Normally it wouldn't bother me but it is today.
My brother-in-law was talking about his game day cooking on Facebook. It didn't bother me at all until his neighbor's sister commented on how she's looking forward to today. His neighbor's sister...
I do want to say that I love my sister dearly and she's a sweetheart, but I guess we just think differently, and we definitely lead different lives. What crosses my mind probably never occurs to her. She would feel terrible if she thought I was feeling slighted. She's never had a malicious bone in her body.
I'll be over it by tomorrow.
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We aren't watching the game here - just sitting in a quiet room. Heather is reading and Bob and I are on our laptops.
I don't have any advice on your pop up deal. That's never happened to me.
I think you are probably right about your sister. She probably thinks this is something you wouldn't even be interested in or she would invite you. I do understand you feelings though - and the more you hear, the worse you feel. I hope you feel better tomorrow!
You said it perfectly: What crosses my mind probably never occurs to her. She would feel terrible if she thought I was feeling slighted. That often happens to me. It still sucks to be left out. If you(or I) lived closer we could unwatch the superbowl together.
Thank you linda for your thoughts & prayers for Cindy & I... I've been thinking a lot about friendships. It has really amazed me at how many great friends she has had. For most of her life. She is such an inspiration.
About your question. Yeah that would hurt my feelings. But then again my brothers & family would never think to invite my family unless it was for the family... They are family not friends. They only have to be nice to us on holidays...
You are so fun & outgoing. I bet your sister just thinks you have so many invites that she doesn't even realize you'd love to be invited...
Thanks for stopping by my humble blog. (You have MANY more commenters and friends than I.) I have so few "friends" that I welcome anyone who might drop by. Sure!
I'm an only child and have only one child, so I'm not real knowledgable about sisters and family dynamics and such. I would imagine your sister would not want to hurt your feelings. She probably just considers the sports/drinking crowd as one you might not love to be around.
I'm the last person to understand other people's social behavior. I have few social skills and get my feelings hurt easily. Even if I don't want to go, I want to be invited. Go figure.
Do stop by my blog again. I promise I'll be more up beat and jolly--maybe.
I've never gotten the pop ups either, I'm guessing it had something to do with the settings when you had your other computer.
I know how your feeling about your sister, although she didnt intentionally leave you out, it would have been nice to been asked.
Hey friend. I so know how you feel. I think almost all of us have been there some time or another. If Howard were home, you would probably feel different. I am sure your Sis didn't even think about it. Does she read your blog? My sister doesn't, which is why I have sister friends to bridge the gap. As for the pop-up, I used to get them too, but I don't anymore either on gmail. XOXO
Unfortunately I can relate. I have two sisters and are not close to either. Never have been and probably never will be. I have two brothers though and one of them I couldn't live without!
We watched the game at my parents' house but I left at half time to get home and get the kids bathed and in bed. Go Saints!!
Aww Linda....I can relate to what happened to you today. We have many friends who had parties and get togethers today, and we were invited to none. We aren't really party people either. I try to not be down about it, but sometimes I'd just like to be invited.
Hang in there.........and I hope you had a good night
Linda good for you venting a little bit about your sister but not really letting it bother you. I love that you will be over it tomorrow. My post today is on Forgiveness and it is not always easy.
I don't watch football. My husband watched the halftime show and fell asleep. Lol poor guy he is really into football but he's had a busy week!
I do not know the answer to your computer message question. If you figure it out I'd love to know because that would be handy.
No party for me either. Home with the hubby. It was nice not to be in a crowded room with others, yelling. Been there and it's not fun.
As for the pop up, never had a pop up.
Sometimes what would normally quickly roll off our backs takes a little longer to leave us. It is great that you realize that she probably doesn't think the same as you do and that your lifestyles are a bit different. Tomorrow you'll feel better about it all.
I've never had the pop-up box come up. I wish it did. That's partly why I moderate my comments. When I didn't moderate, i wouldn't know when someone commented unless I actually looked on my blog. Of course, I was new at blogging too, so that could've been the problem.
Sorry you're feeling down.
Can I sing to you?
Ok.
The sun'll come out
tomorrow
Bet your bottom dollar
That tomorrow
There'll be sun...
Tomorrow, tomorrow,
I love ya, tomorrow
It's only a day away!
Ok, I know that was totally corny.
Hi LInda!!!!
I have never had that pop up notice, it would be kinda nice though!!!!
As for the sister deal, it does hurt NOT to be asked over and really I think you might say something, not now but in a few weeks, like gosh I read about your party, I or we would have liked to have been there, just to be social if anything, I am not a drinker, my hubby might have 1 or 2 or None, depends on his mood, but we can go and socialize and we know which type party is NOT for us and we just don't go, but to fmaily, I would go regardless of what the atmoshere was just to show family support for each other. Don't beat yourself up over it though, she probably just thinks you would feel awkward.
I hope tomorrow is a Bright Beautiful day, I wish I could get my ironing done after the busy week I had this past week --I love to IRON!!!!!
Hugs,
jamie
Hey Linda...don't know anything about the pop up box...it's probably something simple to set up though.
I can relate to your circumstance with your sister. My sister doesn't live in the same town but loves to entertain and likes to party and we are not invited to any of her gatherings either. Would be nice for an invite and we could stop in and leave before it gets crazy. I think part of it is that they don't want us to see them in their party state because we don't fully participate. It is hard and I've felt the same way you do but also know that I don't care to always be in that kind of atmosphere either.
So I make the best of the times I am with her. We live very different lifestyles at this time too.
Just know that you are not alone...sorry you had to spend today by yourself.
Have a good week! Connie
The little box that popped up is from messenger or hotmail, I think.
Oh Linda, she probably just figures that it wouldn't be your thing. Or maybe she just assumes that you would show up if you wanted, you know, an open invitation. If it were me and it were my sister, I'd just show up if I wanted!
I never had a pop up thing like that. I use Gmail and mine shows up at the top left corner as long as I have both my gmail and reader open at the same time. Yea, it's confusing! Love Di
When you figure the pop up thingie, let the rest of us know.
And I'm willing to guess that your sister has no clue that you wouldn't mind being included. I have done the same thing to my SIL and had NO IDEA until she gently said something to me.....
i dont blame u for feeling left out....i think an invite is nice, even if u arent planning on going...at least it was ur decision then
That pop-up thingy works on my PC, but not on my laptop, which is newer. Not sure why...
I probably would've felt bad too, but like others said, maybe she just assumes you wouldn't want to. I know the only reason I like the Superbowl is the food and the commercials.
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