Building Relationships and Making Memories

When the kids were growing up, we entertained alot. It was always fun and easy to have friends over for bbq's and swim parties. We also hosted many church youth functions in our home and what seems like hundreds of family functions. For one reason or another however, we haven't entertained much in the last 4-5 years. I'm sure it's because now since the kids are grown, we: 1) travel more 2) I've worked more than I ever have, so recently when some friends invited themselves over for a get together, I was excited and up for the challenge.

While I say we entertained often, I'm in no way saying I was the perfect hostess. In fact, I was many times a stressed out hostess and I know our guests picked up on it too. Everything had to be so perfect, I wore myself out even before the party started. My husband worked so much that I bore the burden myself and my biggest mistake was thinking I could do it all. Well, it's taken me years to "unwind" but now I think I've got the hang of it and I'm really enjoying opening up our home to family and friends. One important thing I've learned is to let your guests be involved. Let them help you with the preparations and if they want to bring food or dessert to the party, GREAT!

I can honestly say that blogging has helped me in this area of my life. I have read many posts stressing the fact that truly, people don't care what your baseboards look like or if you've vacuumed the house or not, what's important is that when you open up your home, you are building friendships and making wonderful, lasting memories. It's taken me years, but I get it now. I finally get it! I'm so happy to say that over the last few years I've enjoyed each and every time we've had company and I can now say I know they've enjoyed it just as much.

It's been a learning process for me but I have made a hugh effort to "unwind" and be in the moment more. I can't tell you how many opportunities I've let pass by because I felt my home wasn't in "perfect" shape. Truth is, it never is and it never will be. Life is short and I don't want to let opportunities pass me by anymore. I'm all for making the wonderful, lasting memories and relationships!

Last night was fun, relaxing, stress free, and now full of memories. When it got dark, we even took the time to sit out by the pool and gaze at the stars! After all these years, I think I've got the hang of it!










From looking at the photos, you might think "it doesn't look stress free or relaxing to me. It looks like alot of work!" Yes, anytime you have company, it's work, but the secret is I don't stress over it like in the past. I was able to set a nice table and add the special touches because for once I had the time and I now have my husband's help! What got done, got done, and what didn't, didn't! I also let our friends bring part of the meal with them. It made all the difference in the world.