There is a blog that I visit occasionally that has been on my mind for a few months now. In fact, I can't get it out of my mind. Let me tell you a little bit about it and then I want your opinion.
She is married to a professional husband, mother of 6 (college age down to preschool), and blogs about raising her family and the joys/heartache that is involved in doing so. She writes about her everyday life just like the rest of us. Although she didn't talk about it much, from what I can tell she developed a weight problem after having her children and it bothered her...it bothered her enough that she had surgery for it over a year ago.
Unbeknownst to us in blogland, she again went in for surgery, down in Mexico, and she did not survive the surgery. Out of the blue, her husband wrote a post stating that it was with sadness that she had passed away on August 14th.
I.was.dumbfounded.
Not only have I not been able to get her out of my mind, and constantly thinking about her poor husband and children, but now I'm bothered by what I'm reading. Her husband has taken over her blog and will post from time to time.
Only 6 weeks after his wife's death, he told us that he felt it was time that he start dating...yes, dating.
And.he.has!
Am I the only one who has a problem with this? Come on...6 weeks. I find this highly disrespectful to his late wife. They were married for almost 20 years and he only gives it 6 weeks. He met a woman and as of a few weeks ago had gone on 4-5 dates with her that week alone. He feels good that he knows he can "feel something for someone again." He thinks he has feelings for this new woman. As of his last post, the new woman had gone back to her old boyfriend but he's ok with it because he knows he can "feel" again.
This man's life is obviously none of my business but I am so bothered by his behavior. Am I wrong? Are you happy for him...happy that he is moving on? Of course I want this total stranger to move on and be happy but I feel he should give it time. What happened to the idea of waiting one year, grieving, before starting a new life? Everyone who leaves him a comment gives him praise for taking this step. I haven't left a comment because I'm afraid I'll speak up and say "what are you thinking?" Is he already trying to find a new mother for his kids? I worry about the ramifications this will have on his family.
Please give me your thoughts, I'd love to hear what you think about all of this.