During all of this time, Carol and her husband had started going back to church after both being away from "religion" for years. I had always gone to church so I thought this was great, especially since they now had 3 little kids to raise and be responsible for. Carol and I practiced different religions but it had never been an issue. We always agreed that we served the same God.
Over the next few years however, Carol was consummed with her church, raising her children, her church friends, and life in general. Before we knew it, Sue and I were history. Carol had dropped us like a hot potato.
Throughout the years, I continued to send birthday cards and every Christmas, up until only about 3 or 4 years ago, I still sent them Christmas cards. Early on, we'd get a Christmas card in return in Larry's handwriting. Eventually, Larry's cards stopped altogether. At that point, I stopped sending mine out as well.
Over the years, I made telephone calls and ALWAYS ended up talking to Larry, never receiving a call back from Carol. Eventually, I stopped calling.
I never could piece it together, I never could figure it out. But I did know two things...
1) Carol was envious of my home as they hadn't purchased a home of their own during all of those years that we were friends. It wasn't that they didn't have the money as they most certainly did, but Larry was a wise investor and all of their money was put in the stock market. With all of his early investing, in the long run, I'm sure they ended up better than all of us, but at the time, they chose to rent an apartment rather than buy a home of their own. This gave Larry more money to invest.
2) They became obsessed with their church and their church friends, leaving no room in their life for anyone outside of that circle.
Enter 2009...
Part III coming up tomorrow!
11 comments:
Oh,no...you left us hanging in the balance, AGAIN? I'll be waiting with baited breath for "the rest of the story".
My stomach is a little gurgly right now, as I am currently in the process of being "dumped" for a "church family"... Can't wait to hear how yours turns out...
It's sad how friends drift apart. Life comes at ya and before you know it, things aren't the same. I'll be waiting to hear the rest of the story.
You changed your profile picture! I didn't recognize you!
Have a lovely day.
You're killing me!
religion and/or coveting will "do in" a close relationship, unfortunately:( i have been going through the same thing with a old friend of mine, and it feels YUCK!!!
love,
dani xxx
I've heard this story before... Now I'm curious how yours turned out!
It used to really be hard for me to have friends drift away. I know I have been the drifter in some instances too - not on purpose but just life as moves happen, and life happens but it is still hard.
In this case it definately sounds like more of a "friendship" dropped issue than just a drifting away though. So sad.
I'll be back to hear the rest of the story...
Have a great evening, Linda!
~Michelle :)
Hi Linda,
My best friend since 7th grade and I have become very distant and I have asked her if is was something I said...and she said no...it's been about 6-7 years of this slow fade...it's very sad...for me...
Deb...
There have been so many close relationships that have slowly faded away. I have 1 Best friend that I have had since 13 that I can see every 5 yrs or so & still pick up from where we were. She is like a sister to me & I can't ever see my life without her some where in it...
My other friend Cindy that I talk about is that type of friend too...
And of course you will always be a friend. As long as you always let me know where you move to when you finally do move..
Oh - And I don't understand? Owning a home is a great investment if you take care of it & keep it looking good. Better then wasting your money on rent...
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