And I'm nosy...
So here's the question: As you know, I've had 2 friends pass away unexpectedly in the last 2 1/2 weeks. Other than older relatives, this has been a first for me. It's completely different when it's a close friend, a girlfriend that you've shared your life and your heart with.
I don't mean to sound morbid, but I'm interested to know if you've ever had a close friend pass away?
This has been a wake-up call and sure has made me think about my own mortality in a more personal and serious way. It makes me want to nurture more carefully the relationships I have with the family and friends that I love. Both of these losses were sudden and unexpected and will leave a hugh void in many lives and hearts. We need to make everyday count because again, you just never know when God is going to call you home.
22 comments:
HI!!!
I had a best friend, she moved in next door to me when we were both 3, she developed childhood diabetes at age 14, she passed away at age 34, it was terrible for me, other then family members, I had never lost a Best friend or some one young either. It does make yous top and think that everyday is a gift, it is called the Present for a reason.I feel so bad for you and Know you must be feeling so sad. I know you will look at things differently and I need to stop and think about those things as well, we all should, life is short and you do not know when he is calling you home!!!!
God Bless you my friend,
jamie
I've not had a close friend pass away thankfully. I completely agree that we should savor every moment with those we love. We also need to think about how fragile life is, how tomorrow is promised to no one, and most imprortantly where we will spend eternity. When you are young you don't normally think about things like that. I will continue to hold Carol's family and friends in prayer. Hugs
My sister-in-law passed away last year from breast cancer. She was 1 week younger than me, and we talked a lot. Her death wasn't unexpected, because she fought cancer for 3 years, but she was only 48 and her passing left a big void. I still find myself thinking I need to call Jan and tell her something, then remember I can't.
You're right - we need to be ready, because we don't know.
I lost a good friend to cancer. I went to the hospital and we laughed and talked for an hour....that night she slipped into a coma and was gone the next day. It was really shocking because whe was so normal that afternoon. I treasure our hour of fun and shared with her family and other friends the stories we told.
Her illness started with just a backache!
In high school there were 2 boys who died in car crashes. Those were tough. Life is precious!
I have not had a close friend die. Just family and that was grandparents that had lived a full life and were sick... Sometimes I think what it will be like when I loose my mom or dad, or one of my close friends. It will be a very sad day for me.
I'm very sorry for your loss!
~Liz
I had a very good friend in middle school that passed away the same year we graduated high school. She loved horses and was a good rider but the horse got spooked and threw her. She was the only girl in a family of 8 children.
I have not had a close friend pass away. It was very difficult for me when a close-friends mother committed suicide this past year.
My SIL who also happen to be my best fried of 30 years passed away 4 years ago from a brain tumor. It left a huge hole in my life that no one has been able to fill. But I'm grateful that I had her as my BFF for those many years.
wow, that is really sad.
Even though I believe in life after death and have a strong testimony of that-----death scares me.
I have not lost any close friends as of yet and my parents are still both alive.
I worry sometimes at how "strong" I will be when those times comes.
and if I ever lost my spouse BEFORE me------I would be devastated, BUT somehow we find ways to survive our greatest sorrows.
sorry for your losses Linda.
Hi Linda,
Yes.... 13 years ago, in April my girlfriend died of lung cancer after a 2 year battle. My Dad died just and 1/2 hour before my birthday that year and his death was from smoking, not cancer and then 2 weeks later another girlfriend died from a bloodclot from surgery...it wasn't a great month/year.
Good memories I have from them :)
Take care.
Warmly,
Deb :)
I have.
My cousin, who was also one of my close friends, passed away when we were both 26. It was really hard on me. We had spent our whole lives growing up together.
Then another friend I worked with died from leukemia. She was 40.
And one more friend died from a blood clot after having lap-band surgery, on the way home from the hospital.
It's hard. But hopefully it will make us not take any relationship for granted.
No I haven't, just family I can't even imagine.
How are you doing?
Thank you so much for the wonderful notebook for our women's conference.
so thoughtful. I will fill it to the brim with my thoughts of the days emotional and spiritual findings in myself.
We close next week in Denver! ahh it is happening fast now.
My husbands best friend from his growing up years and also a close friend of mine passed away a couple of years ago. He was in a fatal car crash that killed him instantly.
He was the best man at our wedding and had a sweet wife and 2 kids at home. It was so sudden and heart wrenching.
He was barely 40.
It is shocking when someone young dies so suddenly.
I've never had a close friend pass away but I do think that any passing of someone who has touched our lives in someway is difficult to accept. It does make us appreciate our time spent together more.
Love Di ♥
Almost two years ago, my best friend was in a car accident while driving to her nephew's football game. I drove by the accident on the way home from work but due to the emergency vehicles and where the car landed, I did not realize it was her. She was awake and walking around when the ambulance arrived and refused life-flight. At the local hospital it was clear there was no choice and they flew her to another hospital. I was with the family and arrived at the hospital at the same time as life-flight. We saw her when they wheeled her into the hospital. She died while in surgery. Both of her sons are in the military. One was in Kentucky the other in Germany at the time. We were like sisters. Not a day goes by that I don't wish she were still with us.
I have been very lucky....I have not had anyone close to me except family die...we had a close call last year when my best friend of 42 years had a brain tumor....but everything turned out fine...I was so relieved....
First of all, let me just send you my most sincere condolences. It is always a deep loss when we lose someone we love to the arms of our loving Heavenly father. And to lose 2 people you love, so close together, is really tough...having said that, I too lost a friend on the 28th (strange, huh?!?) He was a 52 year old man who died very unexpetedly of a heart attack. He is being laid to rest today. I am so thankful for the faith that I have in KNOWING that I will see him again and that he is now in a better place. God bless you and God bless Carol's sweet family. These painful moments do inspire me to re-think my life and how I am living it. Life is so fleeting, in the eternal scheme of things. I too want to cherish each moment and always remember to show forth love. Thank you for the beautiful posts in their memories and thnk you for the reminder!
~Mary
I am in shock about your friend! What a freak thing!
I have had some very dear friends pass away. One of cancer and another of an infection!
It has left hole in my life. But oh, the memories will always be there!
It's been a year and half since I lost a bestie to breast cancer.
My biggest regret was not spending more time. We loved each other for sure, and we knew it, I could have just taken more time.
Good thoughts
Yes my Best friend as you know died 2 months ago today. I can't imagine losing 2 good friends in 2 1/2 wks. That is so sad & I am so sorry! Truly sorry! I am so sorry that I haven't been on blogs. Haven't talked to you. I bought you a little something though today. Just had to get it, because I thought of you. I'll send it soon.
And I wish I was cherishing my other friendships more instead of hiding in my world. Trying to deal with kids & school issues again. Ugh!
I love ya my friend.
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