Before I continue on with the story, let me give you a little background first.
Cindy and I have been friends for probably close to 15 years, maybe even longer. Her husband Jay worked out of the country and mine worked extremely long hours and then started working out of town like Jay. Our kids swam on the same swim team each year, so Cindy and I and our kids hung out together each and every summer, just about everyday. Our families became close, especially Cindy and I. One night many years ago Cindy called me in tears...they were moving to Texas. She was not happy about the move but of course said she would support Jay and his career and move with him. And she did.
After much discussion between Jay and Cindy, Jay took a full time job in Africa about a year ago while Cindy and the girls stayed behind in Texas. The plan was that Cindy was going to leave 2 weeks ago to join him in Africa. They would travel and see the world together. Cindy had practically raised their 2 grown daughters single- handedly and now it was going to be their turn to enjoy life together.
Just 4 days before Cindy was to leave for Africa she got a call from Jay. He said don't plan on coming here...I've found someone else that I am in love with...and I want a divorce. He says he doesn't want the house or anything in it. He only wants this new woman. Unbelievable!
My dear friend is hurting badly and heart broken and I'm crying over a bad haircut! Talk about putting things in perspective. I'll never mention the haircut again. In the mean time, I'll hopefully be putting a trip together to go to Texas within the next month or so. I have a friend who really needs a friend.
20 comments:
I'm so sorry about your friend. I'm glad you are there for her - she needs you right now.
I hope you get to run to the side of your dear friend. Thanks so much for the 'perspective.' We all need a reality check every once in a while, and then go and hug our hubbys and all else that we hold dear.
I'm so sorry to hear that about your dear friend. I'm glad your gonna be able to go be with her. Texas is a great state to visit( and live! It's where I live!)
You are a good friend Linda. I'm so sorry for Cindy's sorrow. I'm glad she has you. It is so sad that this tragidy has happened to her. I agree with Cindy' comment to go and hug our hubby. I want to go and do that now. Hugs, Kathi
oh, what a BUMMER. I am so sorry. But, man, you are right... it sure does put things into perspective!!!
Oh Linda, that so breaks my heart too. What is up with people? I mean, what happened to enduring to the end? 'Til death do us part? Just learning to "deal"?
What a bum! (This is a family blog, so I must keep the adjectives PG-13 at the very least.
Unbelievable! I'm so sorry for her. I hope your visit helps her and comforts her.
bless her heart, linda... everything is very relative; isn't it!!! i hope she will find peace with this situation.
love,
dani
That is so sad. I'm sure it's nice for her to know she's got a friend like you to lean on.
Oh Linda,
That is heartbreaking!
Your friend calling YOU in such a difficult time shows the true depth of your friendship.
True friends are blood deep.
Be safe in your travels.
and to think I was coming over to ask how the egg rolls on the stick were...
wow! my heart goes out to your long time dear friend cindy. it almosst makes me feel like i should go to texas too....some "girl bonding time"!
What the.....!!!!! I am always so amazed at people's behavior. I am not sure why because I shouldn't be surprised by much of anything by now.
Please let your friend know that there are lots of people thinking about her and praying for her.
You are a dear friend -- just the kind of friend Cindy needs now and always!
OMG, I'm so sorry. Yes, you need to be there for her with lots of hugs!
Hugz,
Michele
Oh my! stories like this always make me sad. I will put your friend in my prayers. You are such a good friend, Linda. She is lucky to have you!
Oh my Goodness! How horrible that is to hear. I hope she will find peace & happiness. What a Great friend to be there for her. I know just talking to her lifted her up for a time...
Its funny how some things put other things into perspective, I am sending some energy her way, heartbreak is so difficult to deal with, particularly when it comes out of left field.
Enjoy your time in Texas, she will be so grateful for you - as we all are!!! (p.s you should visit Jenn while your there - that would be fun!!!)
Oh Linda, that is awful!! I hope you do go visit her - fiends and family (and prayer, of course) were the best things for me when my husband left me soon after Griffin was born.
Thanks for sharing the story so we can pray for her!!
I'm steaming and I don't even know your friend. What a hard, hard thing to endure, I'm so sorry for her and her kids. Thank God she has such a good friend in you, Linda.
God bless,
Brenda
I have a best friend who is going through this very thing. My oldest sister went through it, as did my mom (in the 50's). Being newly divorced, I feel the pain, although, thankfully, this was not part of our issues.
You are a wonderful, caring friend, and she is very blessed to have you.
What a $%^&#!! Sound like your friend really needs you. What a turd! (her husband) I know what you mean about the putting things into perspective....Good luck to her.
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