Yesterday was my niece's 16th birthday so I asked my husband last night if he'd called Allie to wish her a happy birthday. I was kinda shocked at his response...
"No, I didn't call her. Why should I bother to call her or anyone else in my family, they never call me for my birthday, or any other time for that matter!"
Sadly, he's right. Today is my sweet husband's birthday and he hasn't received one card, call, or text from any of his family...and he won't. Unfortunately, the two that did call passed away over 10 years ago so his birthday always goes completely unnoticed.
That's where my family steps in...
For 29 years, they've ALL called and sent him cards for birthdays, Father's Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas, or they'll call just to call. They love him and he loves them. They've all called him today already to give him wonderful birthday wishes.
My husband and I are of different faiths and we often have different opinions on things so at times over the last 29 years I've wondered why God even put the two of us together. I now think one reason is that God knew he needed to be part of a loving, caring family. My husband is the kindest, most generous person around and his family just doesn't know, or care, what they're missing.
For the record, this was my response to my husband yesterday...
"I sent Allie a card/check and also sent her a message on Facebook. I know they don't call us or acknowledge our birthdays, but we're better than that, and we do what's right."
Update: My FIL just called to talk to me, asked me why I don't call him much. During the course of the conversation, I mentioned that it was Howard's birthday today. He didn't acknowledge that I'd said it and just kept on talking. Amazing!