I have worked more than my fair share these last few weeks due to a nursing shortage at work, I'm losing the battle against my house and its upkeep, and to put it bluntly, I just needed a break from my husband...so I stayed home.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not fighting with my husband or anything, but this is the scenario. I've been married for over 25 years and my husband has always worked an ungodly amount of hours. The last 14 years he worked out of town, only to be home on weekends...so needless to say, I'm quite independent because I've had to be. Now fast forward to February '08. Hubby decides to retire even though he's only just over 50 years old, is now home 24/7, and is happy as a clam.
Now do you see why I stayed home!?! I'm thankful today for the alone time I had this weekend, for the chores I accomplished (we're having out of town company next weekend), and I'm extremely thankful that I have a husband that understands and doesn't give me grief about it.
So instead of feeling tired or resentful, I feel refreshed and rejuvenated...and ready to take on another week!
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I understand what you mean. I love my husband dearly, but he works weird hours and I have learned to be independent too. I love spending time with him, but I also enjoy the evenings he works, as I do my own thing and actually get more done than when he's home!
I have been married seven years and I frequently need a vacation away from my husband. I like for him to go someplace and leave me at home rather than leave him here and get away. I enjoy being at home alone.
The same kind of weekend is coming up this Friday. I am so excited to have alone clean uninterupted time. Selfish yes. But he know I need it sometimes. Its the way we roll now for the last 28 yrs. It works. I think it shows a great relationship of trust and allowing you to be you sometimes. Yeah for blessings.
I completely understand and need the alone time too...and there is nothing better than a clean, quiet house!! (Can you tell I've been home with teenagers all summer?)
Good for you! Alone time is essential. We take seperate vacations every year.
I can relate! :) I know for me, alone time is something that I need. I hope you had a wonderful weekend!
I dont blame you for wanting to stay home. If your like me, I get so much more done around the house when there isnt anyone under my feet!Enjoy your time while he is enjoying his camping!
I know EXACTLY what you mean, and how you feel. My sweet hubby has been a stay at home man for years now. He's home 24/7 as well. And sometimes...it catches up with me and I wonder how to cope with somebody that I love madly, but who is always underfoot. Most women have time that they can call their own during the day...not I!! I love it when there's a time when the house empties out.
good for you, linda!!! literally:D
love,
dani
Oh yeah, I know what you mean! And I'm sure the guys like to get away as well!
I never understand women who don't let their husbands go away on "guy" trips.
I can relate completely. We've only been married 10 years, but my husband has worked an average of 250 days a year out of town....so we really haven't been married all that long! LOL! When he's home we are good most of the time, but since we are both so independent, things sometimes get a little tricky.
We didn't find a place to move to in NC...but we ARE going to move there. We probably could never afford to live where my sister in law lives, but we definitely want to live nearby. We are no where near being ready to retire, so we both have to find work out there. Sooooo, we're beginning the process of downsizing now...in preparation to go in a couple of years. With the situation with my sis, I don't want to be too far away right now. Things will work out as they are supposed to. : )
Take care!
Jan
First...thanks for visiting my blog.
I had a similar problem when my DH went from working afternoons to days...it still 5 years laters, throws a whole kinky wrench into my "schedual".
Mercy. Ready you blog is like looking in a mirror. Jimmy has been traveling full-time for 9 years and I have become quite independent too. I know exactly what you mean, needing your alone time, and don't blame you a bit.
Hope you had a great time of rest alone with God.
Oh, and I am a nurse too!
Blessings,
Nancy
I am glad you enjoyed your down time & alone time. Sounds so fun! A friend of mine that is a nurse can't find a job here, there isn't a shortage on NICU nurses I guess...
Have a Great week!
I can totally understand the need to be alone - the only problem is he doesn't want to take the 5 kidlets with him!
Thanks for visiting my sister and making her feel welcome in blogland.
I like to alone too...I am a SAHM who does a lot for my family and I spend all my time with them...although I adore them.... I enjoy going to the library alone or thrifting alone. I know exactly what you mean!!
I hope you are having a great summer so far!
Blessings,
robin
Woo Hoo! Have some great alone time.
I just love my alone time.
BTW, I mailed you a pkg about a week ago...did it arrive safely?
home alone...I love it. doesn't happen very often, but I love it.
Wow! that would take some getting used to.
I've experienced both sides, Sunny worked long hours when we were first married, now he has his real estate office at home, so he's here all the time. We just all do our own thing tho' so it's not a problem.
Glad you got a lot accomplished this weekend.
God bless,
Brenda
Everybody needs a little "just me" time now and then. I had it yesterday too and loved it. It's good for the soul.
Hugs,
LeAnn:)
It doesn't matter how much you love or enjoy the person you need to have a break now and then.
I love my time alone and I'm now living with my sister, whom I love, but I always tell her I need my alone time.
Big hug
Joanne
I I understand what you mean--and I like how you explained your feelings in such a nice way. A little alone time is restorative. Glad you had a nice weekend!
LOL, good morning my dear, I know where you are at, and No one can say you are horrible for saying that, till they have walked in your shoes!!! truly! I have, we become independent , because we have to! God Love em! but we all need a step back. to really appreciate what we have! Hope it was the best for you! Hugs~ Diana Lyn
I can't imagine having to 'learn' a whole new lifestyle when you are so use to another!! :) Good thing you all have that understanding with hubby that if you need some time to yourself you can get it. :)
Glad you were able to get some time!
Oh, I envy you! Growing up in a very quiet household, there are times when I just need some QUIET! Whoops! Was I shouting?! LOL! I'm glad you were blessed and refreshed, Linda!
Blessings,
Tammy ~@~
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